Surely, this will ruin a friendship?
This is always been a question on our minds, how much is the appropriate amount to spend if you’re in the bridal party?
Well, this maid of honour thought it was too much at the wedding she was a part of and she called it quits.
She went to Mumsnet to ask if it was out of line to pull out of the bridal party after the list of expenses started piling up.
She had to pay for the bridesmaid dress, overseas hen’s party, pre-wedding spa weekend and was asked to contribute to the cakes.
“As time has gone on this wedding seems to be getting bigger and bigger.”
Now, this particular bride has 18 bridesmaids plus flower girls and page boys!!!
The maid of honour is meant to be organising all the pre-wedding activities and the finances plus paying her own share.
“I do not have this kind of money,” she says, “I won’t be going abroad [for the hen’s]. I don’t have the time nor quite frankly the inclination to arrange multiple events for bride to be.
“Whilst I want to be there for her and help her as much as I can… I don’t think I’m the right person to give her the build up to her wedding that she really wants.”
The responses she got varied from sympathetic to others expressing their concerns for the friendship.
“Could you tactfully say you are feeling anxious about the responsibility. You could suggest either she appoints a joint maid of honour?” one person suggested.
“Could you tactfully say you are feeling anxious about the responsibility. You could suggest either she appoints a joint maid of honour to help or you could just step down and be bridesmaid?”
“Resign. It’s going to ruin your friendship anyway if she pressures you into more madness in the months before her wedding date.”
What do you think?
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Written by Christina Caveleri
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